Thursday, September 16, 2010

A Little Study!

Hey I am teaching a class about open adoption! I wanted to conduct a small study!

Answer the questions in a comment or email to me at birthmothers4adoption@gmail.com
If you email me put STUDY in the subject line! They are all in your opinion and from your experiences. Choose the answer that is closest to what you feel, feel free to expand on it as well.


QUESTION 1
What is the best and most effective way to set up boundaries for your open adoption?

a) Talking about it
b) Writing it down
c) Letting the birthmom/birthfather or adoptive couple decide then inform the opposite party
d) a and b

QUESTION 2
What do you feel is the least invasive form of communication
a) Letters and pictures
b) Blog
c) Visits
d) Phone calls/ Texting
e) Other: Please specify

QUESTION 3
What do you feel is the most invasive form of communication
a) Letters and pictures
b)Blog
c) Visits
d) Phone Calls/Texting
e) Other: Please specify

QUESTION 4
What is the thing you have seen that has caused the biggest breakdown in communication
a) The birthmom trying to co-parent
b) The adoptive couple ignoring the birthmom
c) Other: Please specify

QUESTION 5 (JUST FOR BIRTHMOMS)
What is the main thing that attracted you to the couple you chose
a) Pictures
b) Birthmother letter
c) Communication
d) Other: Please Specify

QUESTION 6 (JUST FOR ADOPTIVE COUPLES-PLEASE BE HONEST)
What was the main thing you worried about when it came to your profile/blog?
a) Birthmother wouldn't like how you looked
b) Your birthparent letter
c) Birthmother wouldn't like everything about you
d) You were unsure about what you wanted in openess
e) Other: Specify


Thank you for your help!! Jessa

3 comments:

  1. 1:D
    2:A
    3:C
    4:C - One or both sides not expressing what they want/need/how they feel.
    5:D - Feeling when I read the letter
    6:NA

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  2. QUESTION 1
    d) a and b

    QUESTION 2
    a) Letters and pictures


    QUESTION 3

    c) Visits


    QUESTION 4
    c) Other: Please specify
    Looking at others situations it is the AP ignoring birthmom. In our situation there is not a break down too much of communication with birthmom but birthdad uses language we dont like and also expressed in one letter getting our child back after the birthdad was back on his feet. That made us hesitant to keep emailing all the time.

    QUESTION 5 (JUST FOR BIRTHMOMS)
    NA

    QUESTION 6 (JUST FOR ADOPTIVE COUPLES-PLEASE BE HONEST)
    What was the main thing you worried about when it came to your profile/blog?
    a) Birthmother wouldn't like how you looked

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  3. QUESTION 1
    What is the best and most effective way to set up boundaries for your open adoption?
    a) Talking about it

    QUESTION 2
    What do you feel is the least invasive form of communication
    a) Letters and pictures

    QUESTION 3
    What do you feel is the most invasive form of communication
    c) Visits

    QUESTION 4
    What is the thing you have seen that has caused the biggest breakdown in communication
    c) Other: Please specify - miscommunication or the lack of communication on the side of either party.


    QUESTION 6 (JUST FOR ADOPTIVE COUPLES-PLEASE BE HONEST)
    What was the main thing you worried about when it came to your profile/blog?
    e) Other: Specify - we already had an older daughter (12)whom we had adopted previously as an infant and we were trying to adopt an infant again.

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